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Adam
I am moving into a house at the end of the month and it has 2 stairwells. So I would need to install 4 baby safety gates for my 15 month old's protection. Are they easy to install or should I get someone to do it?
Answer
It's not difficult at all for a DIY, with even the most modest tools. The issue might extend a bit farther however. In your case spend for the best. Certainly dollar amounts should never be equated to child safety. While I have installed some for other than family members; it is a MAJOR liability issue. Certainly as a DIY your concerns are as valid; but in your case also is it valid for a contractor to not strictly want to take on the safety of YOUR child...after the fact; and possibly for years.
Instructions are pretty clear with any quality product; and should be followed. Not only do you want the gate secured in a locking system; TOP AND BOTTOM; but also one with some fabrication that disallows climbing over; and/.or secured protrusions; etc.
A tenacious child will continue to seek out ways to overcome a gate; and obviously any child young enough to NOT GET IT; should be pretty constantly monitored anyway.
Steven Wolf
parent/grandparent
It's not difficult at all for a DIY, with even the most modest tools. The issue might extend a bit farther however. In your case spend for the best. Certainly dollar amounts should never be equated to child safety. While I have installed some for other than family members; it is a MAJOR liability issue. Certainly as a DIY your concerns are as valid; but in your case also is it valid for a contractor to not strictly want to take on the safety of YOUR child...after the fact; and possibly for years.
Instructions are pretty clear with any quality product; and should be followed. Not only do you want the gate secured in a locking system; TOP AND BOTTOM; but also one with some fabrication that disallows climbing over; and/.or secured protrusions; etc.
A tenacious child will continue to seek out ways to overcome a gate; and obviously any child young enough to NOT GET IT; should be pretty constantly monitored anyway.
Steven Wolf
parent/grandparent
DIY-Birth: why do women do it?
Sesshoumar
Why do you think some women have their children at home, without any asisstance?
Please be aware, I'm not trying to critize women who do this, as I respect their right to do so. I'm simply trying to understand the deeper reasons why some people are driven to this.
Answer
When you have an "attendant" at a birth you are giving away your power -and you start listening to them rather than to yourself. Once you stop listening to your own body you are in a dangerous place. A birth attendant can't tell you when you are ready to push, etc. Some women are more susceptible to this than others
On the other hand a knowledgeable and supportive person at the birth is definitly helpful. But as a subordinate to the mother.
However most doctors and obs are dangerous. Hospital births are continually shown to be more dangerous than home-birth in low risk pregnancies. Doctors, OBs and the whole medical system are more worried about what will look good if they are sued then what is actually best for the baby. It seems that no matter how many studies show continuous fetal monitoring does far more harm than good they will continue to do it. No matter how many studies show that obstetrics is the branch of medicine with the least number of policies and procedures backed by science they will implement first -research second (if at all).
I had a homebirth transfer - I will never step foot in the hospital again during birth unless I am dead or dying. I was treatened, bullied, and harrassed. But even WORSE they screwed up and gave my son the wrong treatment WITHOUT MY CONSENT. It is a good thing he was and still is an extremely healthy boy. It could have been much worse.
My next birth was at home and my only complaint is you can't support your own perineum and its really hard to explain to your husband what you need during labour. I have a friend who is a midwife she was invited to this birth but didn't make it. Maybe she will be invited next time, maybe not. I certainly appreciated her sewing skills later that day.
You might find some useful information here:
http://www.empoweredchildbirth.com
When you have an "attendant" at a birth you are giving away your power -and you start listening to them rather than to yourself. Once you stop listening to your own body you are in a dangerous place. A birth attendant can't tell you when you are ready to push, etc. Some women are more susceptible to this than others
On the other hand a knowledgeable and supportive person at the birth is definitly helpful. But as a subordinate to the mother.
However most doctors and obs are dangerous. Hospital births are continually shown to be more dangerous than home-birth in low risk pregnancies. Doctors, OBs and the whole medical system are more worried about what will look good if they are sued then what is actually best for the baby. It seems that no matter how many studies show continuous fetal monitoring does far more harm than good they will continue to do it. No matter how many studies show that obstetrics is the branch of medicine with the least number of policies and procedures backed by science they will implement first -research second (if at all).
I had a homebirth transfer - I will never step foot in the hospital again during birth unless I am dead or dying. I was treatened, bullied, and harrassed. But even WORSE they screwed up and gave my son the wrong treatment WITHOUT MY CONSENT. It is a good thing he was and still is an extremely healthy boy. It could have been much worse.
My next birth was at home and my only complaint is you can't support your own perineum and its really hard to explain to your husband what you need during labour. I have a friend who is a midwife she was invited to this birth but didn't make it. Maybe she will be invited next time, maybe not. I certainly appreciated her sewing skills later that day.
You might find some useful information here:
http://www.empoweredchildbirth.com
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