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why is having a. preemie such a big deal and i hear that preemie babies are wy smaller and more fussy, plus i heard that a premature baby is a big deal to have and i heard that a lot of people have preemies, and that they need a lot of special care, what kind of care is this? and whats the big fus? obviously they are just smaller but why is is such a big deal to have a premature baby is there something about babies being premature that makes the actual mother that gives birth a bad person? i mean is all preemies asociated with like drug abuse or what? i mean preemie this preemie that its seems like such a big deal but what the heck is th big deal about? just because the baby hasnt grown all the way like "normal" babies do before being born? anyone know about this a may give best answer to the longest most in depth answer thanks guys this is really a piece of work question i know, but u can do it!
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Sit & look at your baby who isn't just 'little' but has body shorter than a ruler & weighing less than the leg of lamb you roasted for dinner.Notice his transparent skin & opaque eyes.See the tubes going into his nose & down his throat, IV lines in his legs & arms. His arms & legs pinned to the bed by these IVs so he doesn't accidentally pull them out & bleed to death.The heart monitor plugs covering what little remaining flesh isn't covered by the other equipment,remember to switch your glance between him & the monitor those leads run to so you are certain hes breathing.Hes so little you cant always tell.Just sit & look ,no touching,hes still too little to risk contamination,so of course you cant take him out of the humidity crib for a cuddle, he couldnt survive the temperature changes or breathe the air, he needs the pressure from the crib too, just to keep him alive.Theres no bottles or breastfeeding hes to underdeveloped to suckle, add another tube down his throat into his stomach & feed him through that.
So whats the big deal of being rushed for emergency surgery to deliver a baby you thought wouldnt be here for another 12 weeks,remember you expect to carry for 40 weeks not 28.Wat does it feel like to know that leaving you is the best chance your baby has to live.Isnt a Mother the best to care for her baby? What have you done wrong?Nature can be cruel & medical science steps in to try to put things back to the way they "should be".You beg the Drs not to use a general anesthetic so you could at least see him but he was whisked straight away anyway just a blurr out of the corner of your crying eye.There is lots of activity beyond your vision but no one has the time to tell you what was happening,it was a minute or too before you heard this squeek.Your Husband tells you that whisper was your babys cry.But there was only one, arent babies supposed to cry lots when theyre born, is he ok?You dont know nor does Hubby, bubs already been whisked away,the Dr still there can only tell you they'll do all the can....
How cruel is it to sit & look at this tiny baby & not know if you will ever hold him? IF & it often is a VERY BIG if (though few have the courage to tell you to your face, its when the Dr/nurse doesnt look at your face you hear their true meaning) IF he survives will he be blind,deaf, brain damaged, will there organ damage,will he need surgery to correct brain heomorages at a date earlier than he was ment to be born,the next time he stops breathing (common in prems) will a tap be enough to get him going again?Will he be here when I come back tomorrow,will he be alive when I come back from the toilet?
So whats the big deal when your baby is one month old before you can actually touch & hold him?You still dont know what his quality of life will be, its still to early to tell & some things like brain hemorages can happen without warning & cause massive irriversable damamge.So what if you are battling desperatly to express every 2 hrs day & night,be at the hospital every waking moment.When youre not at the hospital with him you physically ache to be there, when you are there you so desperatly want to be with him at home, away from all of this. Having a baby is a happy joyous experiance, shared with family & friends, but you dont want to complain or feel jeoulous, at least hes still alive & for feeling resentful at what you feel robbed of you also dread the alternative.not needing to go to the hospital because he didnt make it.
Now hes 2 months old hes still in intensive care, theyre saying hes doing really well but still not sure when he can come home.Youve seen babies come into the NICU & then you dont see the Mums anymore,you often know its best not to ask the nurses because there but by the grace of God go you.You learn not to ask many things, think many things but if only you could stop yourself feeling. Feeling the elation at hearing he should move to special care in a day of to only to come crashing down agin when he has a setback, bottle feeding was abit to tiresome and his lung started to deflate but hes ok we got to him before it collapsed but we wont try bottles agin for a week to give him a chance to strengthen.
Do prems just happen to druggies?Nah & you know what if I could have been drugged out of my brain it just may have been easier to cope Bad things also happen to good people.I had an undiagnosed immune disorder which as well as nearly killing me ment my baby was nolonger safe in my body. Both unable to be noruished & running the risk my immune system would start attacking him & kill him. So I also had the added quilt that it was 'my fault' even though it was totally beyond my control it was my body killing my baby.There were bubs had heart defects, blood dissorders & incompatabilities genetic disorders.Mums with uncontrolled diabeties, preeclampsia , premature membrane rupture & other common pregnancy complications that got out of control.
Sit & look at your baby who isn't just 'little' but has body shorter than a ruler & weighing less than the leg of lamb you roasted for dinner.Notice his transparent skin & opaque eyes.See the tubes going into his nose & down his throat, IV lines in his legs & arms. His arms & legs pinned to the bed by these IVs so he doesn't accidentally pull them out & bleed to death.The heart monitor plugs covering what little remaining flesh isn't covered by the other equipment,remember to switch your glance between him & the monitor those leads run to so you are certain hes breathing.Hes so little you cant always tell.Just sit & look ,no touching,hes still too little to risk contamination,so of course you cant take him out of the humidity crib for a cuddle, he couldnt survive the temperature changes or breathe the air, he needs the pressure from the crib too, just to keep him alive.Theres no bottles or breastfeeding hes to underdeveloped to suckle, add another tube down his throat into his stomach & feed him through that.
So whats the big deal of being rushed for emergency surgery to deliver a baby you thought wouldnt be here for another 12 weeks,remember you expect to carry for 40 weeks not 28.Wat does it feel like to know that leaving you is the best chance your baby has to live.Isnt a Mother the best to care for her baby? What have you done wrong?Nature can be cruel & medical science steps in to try to put things back to the way they "should be".You beg the Drs not to use a general anesthetic so you could at least see him but he was whisked straight away anyway just a blurr out of the corner of your crying eye.There is lots of activity beyond your vision but no one has the time to tell you what was happening,it was a minute or too before you heard this squeek.Your Husband tells you that whisper was your babys cry.But there was only one, arent babies supposed to cry lots when theyre born, is he ok?You dont know nor does Hubby, bubs already been whisked away,the Dr still there can only tell you they'll do all the can....
How cruel is it to sit & look at this tiny baby & not know if you will ever hold him? IF & it often is a VERY BIG if (though few have the courage to tell you to your face, its when the Dr/nurse doesnt look at your face you hear their true meaning) IF he survives will he be blind,deaf, brain damaged, will there organ damage,will he need surgery to correct brain heomorages at a date earlier than he was ment to be born,the next time he stops breathing (common in prems) will a tap be enough to get him going again?Will he be here when I come back tomorrow,will he be alive when I come back from the toilet?
So whats the big deal when your baby is one month old before you can actually touch & hold him?You still dont know what his quality of life will be, its still to early to tell & some things like brain hemorages can happen without warning & cause massive irriversable damamge.So what if you are battling desperatly to express every 2 hrs day & night,be at the hospital every waking moment.When youre not at the hospital with him you physically ache to be there, when you are there you so desperatly want to be with him at home, away from all of this. Having a baby is a happy joyous experiance, shared with family & friends, but you dont want to complain or feel jeoulous, at least hes still alive & for feeling resentful at what you feel robbed of you also dread the alternative.not needing to go to the hospital because he didnt make it.
Now hes 2 months old hes still in intensive care, theyre saying hes doing really well but still not sure when he can come home.Youve seen babies come into the NICU & then you dont see the Mums anymore,you often know its best not to ask the nurses because there but by the grace of God go you.You learn not to ask many things, think many things but if only you could stop yourself feeling. Feeling the elation at hearing he should move to special care in a day of to only to come crashing down agin when he has a setback, bottle feeding was abit to tiresome and his lung started to deflate but hes ok we got to him before it collapsed but we wont try bottles agin for a week to give him a chance to strengthen.
Do prems just happen to druggies?Nah & you know what if I could have been drugged out of my brain it just may have been easier to cope Bad things also happen to good people.I had an undiagnosed immune disorder which as well as nearly killing me ment my baby was nolonger safe in my body. Both unable to be noruished & running the risk my immune system would start attacking him & kill him. So I also had the added quilt that it was 'my fault' even though it was totally beyond my control it was my body killing my baby.There were bubs had heart defects, blood dissorders & incompatabilities genetic disorders.Mums with uncontrolled diabeties, preeclampsia , premature membrane rupture & other common pregnancy complications that got out of control.
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Q. need to know a list of supplies needed for baby for sister. include the most and you'll get best answer. [try not to use the same stuff other people are doing...but diapers for example well everyone can obviously say that]
also include three important pieces of information she should know! try not to do the same information as others! THANKS!
also include three important pieces of information she should know! try not to do the same information as others! THANKS!
Answer
Some of this is optional, of course....
I have marked the ones that I think are necessary with two stars (**) and things that are really nice to have with one star (*)
**Car Seat
Car Seat Base for 2nd Car (optional)
Car Seat Head Support (if not included with seat)
*Auto Mirror
*Stroller (I suggest the Snap and Go; Don't buy a travel system, they are junk)
*Portable Crib or Playard (Graco Pack-and-Play with full-size bassinet)
Playard Sheets
**Moby Wrap
Maybe a Bjorn or other carrier for an older baby, optional)
**Gym or Playmat (I suggest Tiny Love brand)
**Bouncer Seat
Jumper
Swing
Stationary Entertainer (eg Exersaucer)
Do not get a walker! They are dangerous.
**Baby Monitor
Safety Gate (if needed)
Corner Guards & Tot Locks (wonât need until 5+ months)
**Nightlight
Humidifier
**Thermometer
Brush and Comb
**First Aid Kit
**Nail Scissors
**Gas Relief Drops
**Baby Tylenol
**Bulb Syringe (they might give you one in the hospital)
**Diaper Bag (really any kind of bag will do)
**Diaper Pail and Refills
**Rash Ointment (I suggest A&D)
Wipes Warmer (I donât use this personally)
**Diapers (3 newborn pkgs. & 1 size one)
Baby Wipes (I use cotton pads instead, with warm water from a thermos)
**Baby Clothes
Homecoming Outfit
**Onesies
**Footed Sleepers
*2 Sleepsacks (Halo brand; donât get the Carterâs brand they are too hot)
I avoid the Gowns, my baby kicks them up
**Absorbent Bibs
Booties or Socks
**Hats
Snowsuit or Bunting and Warm Hat (for winter babies)
**Receiving Blankets
*Bassinet (or use the pack-and-play)
**Crib
**Mattress
Mattress Pad
Avoid the Crib Bedding Set; you canât use loose bedding in a crib
**Fitted Sheets, Cotton and/or Flannel (Ultimate Crib Sheet is nice)
Breathable baby bumper (Donât get a fluffy one!)
**Mobile
*Dresser/Armoire (Can use a changing pad with a dresser instead of a changing table)
*Changing Table
**Changing Pad & Covers
*Glider and Ottoman or Rocker (this is more necessary than you might think!)
**Hamper (you will be doing a lot of laundry!!)
*Dreft baby detergent is nice, or use Planet brand or another natural product
Lamp
Nursery Storage
Window Treatments
Rug
Nursery Accessories (wall hangings, shelves, etc.)
*Rattles/Teethers
*Toys for 0-12 Months
Stuffed Animals (keep out of the crib!)
Crib Mirror
Crib Toys (the rainforest soother is good)
Car Seat & Stroller Toys
**Breast Pump (medela pump in style)
**My Breast Friend Nursing Pillow (not the boppy!)
*Breast Pads, Shields & Cream
Bibs, Burp Cloths and Lap Pads (I use regular hand towels, taget has sets for $2)
*Bottles and Nipples (born free)
Bottle Sterilizer (i dont use one)
**Planet brand dish soap for washing baby stuff
High Chair (donât need until 6 months)
Feeding Sets(donât need until 6 months)
Infant Spoons(donât need until 6 months)
*Bath Tub (make sure it has a soft infant sling)
Bath Toys
*Washcloths & Hooded Towels
*Gentle Shampoo or Body Wash (I use Aveeno)
Baby Lotion (Aveeno)
Bath Accessories
Pregnancy & Childbirth Books (I suggest "Great Expectations")
Breastfeeding & Parenting Books (I suggest "What to Expect the First Year")
Colorful Board Books for Baby (eg Goodnight Moon)
Classical or Lullaby music
*Camera (digital, video, or film)
Baby Book or Journal
*Snap 'N Go Stroller Frame
Stroller Blanket Bag (for cold weather, if your carseat doesnât have one)
Stroller Rain Shield
Portable Feeding Seat (optional, I donât have one)
Information
If you shop at Amazon, please use this link (it gives a donation to a baby organization) http://www.babycorner.org/donations.html
To eliminate gas, lay the baby on his back and gently âbicycleâ his legs.
Use Born Free bottles or glass; others have harmful chemicals that are bad for babies.
Breastfeed! Itâs so much better for babies.
Make sure the babyâs butt is completely dry before putting on the diaper to prevent diaper rash. Use a lot of cream with zinc oxide at the first sign of rash (after thoroughly air drying). Wipes can give babies diaper rash so cotton pads and water are better.
I suggest that you get the latest edition of the "Baby Bargains" book as a great buying guide, especially for car seats and cribs, where safety is a big concern.
Love your baby â thatâs what he needs most.
Some of this is optional, of course....
I have marked the ones that I think are necessary with two stars (**) and things that are really nice to have with one star (*)
**Car Seat
Car Seat Base for 2nd Car (optional)
Car Seat Head Support (if not included with seat)
*Auto Mirror
*Stroller (I suggest the Snap and Go; Don't buy a travel system, they are junk)
*Portable Crib or Playard (Graco Pack-and-Play with full-size bassinet)
Playard Sheets
**Moby Wrap
Maybe a Bjorn or other carrier for an older baby, optional)
**Gym or Playmat (I suggest Tiny Love brand)
**Bouncer Seat
Jumper
Swing
Stationary Entertainer (eg Exersaucer)
Do not get a walker! They are dangerous.
**Baby Monitor
Safety Gate (if needed)
Corner Guards & Tot Locks (wonât need until 5+ months)
**Nightlight
Humidifier
**Thermometer
Brush and Comb
**First Aid Kit
**Nail Scissors
**Gas Relief Drops
**Baby Tylenol
**Bulb Syringe (they might give you one in the hospital)
**Diaper Bag (really any kind of bag will do)
**Diaper Pail and Refills
**Rash Ointment (I suggest A&D)
Wipes Warmer (I donât use this personally)
**Diapers (3 newborn pkgs. & 1 size one)
Baby Wipes (I use cotton pads instead, with warm water from a thermos)
**Baby Clothes
Homecoming Outfit
**Onesies
**Footed Sleepers
*2 Sleepsacks (Halo brand; donât get the Carterâs brand they are too hot)
I avoid the Gowns, my baby kicks them up
**Absorbent Bibs
Booties or Socks
**Hats
Snowsuit or Bunting and Warm Hat (for winter babies)
**Receiving Blankets
*Bassinet (or use the pack-and-play)
**Crib
**Mattress
Mattress Pad
Avoid the Crib Bedding Set; you canât use loose bedding in a crib
**Fitted Sheets, Cotton and/or Flannel (Ultimate Crib Sheet is nice)
Breathable baby bumper (Donât get a fluffy one!)
**Mobile
*Dresser/Armoire (Can use a changing pad with a dresser instead of a changing table)
*Changing Table
**Changing Pad & Covers
*Glider and Ottoman or Rocker (this is more necessary than you might think!)
**Hamper (you will be doing a lot of laundry!!)
*Dreft baby detergent is nice, or use Planet brand or another natural product
Lamp
Nursery Storage
Window Treatments
Rug
Nursery Accessories (wall hangings, shelves, etc.)
*Rattles/Teethers
*Toys for 0-12 Months
Stuffed Animals (keep out of the crib!)
Crib Mirror
Crib Toys (the rainforest soother is good)
Car Seat & Stroller Toys
**Breast Pump (medela pump in style)
**My Breast Friend Nursing Pillow (not the boppy!)
*Breast Pads, Shields & Cream
Bibs, Burp Cloths and Lap Pads (I use regular hand towels, taget has sets for $2)
*Bottles and Nipples (born free)
Bottle Sterilizer (i dont use one)
**Planet brand dish soap for washing baby stuff
High Chair (donât need until 6 months)
Feeding Sets(donât need until 6 months)
Infant Spoons(donât need until 6 months)
*Bath Tub (make sure it has a soft infant sling)
Bath Toys
*Washcloths & Hooded Towels
*Gentle Shampoo or Body Wash (I use Aveeno)
Baby Lotion (Aveeno)
Bath Accessories
Pregnancy & Childbirth Books (I suggest "Great Expectations")
Breastfeeding & Parenting Books (I suggest "What to Expect the First Year")
Colorful Board Books for Baby (eg Goodnight Moon)
Classical or Lullaby music
*Camera (digital, video, or film)
Baby Book or Journal
*Snap 'N Go Stroller Frame
Stroller Blanket Bag (for cold weather, if your carseat doesnât have one)
Stroller Rain Shield
Portable Feeding Seat (optional, I donât have one)
Information
If you shop at Amazon, please use this link (it gives a donation to a baby organization) http://www.babycorner.org/donations.html
To eliminate gas, lay the baby on his back and gently âbicycleâ his legs.
Use Born Free bottles or glass; others have harmful chemicals that are bad for babies.
Breastfeed! Itâs so much better for babies.
Make sure the babyâs butt is completely dry before putting on the diaper to prevent diaper rash. Use a lot of cream with zinc oxide at the first sign of rash (after thoroughly air drying). Wipes can give babies diaper rash so cotton pads and water are better.
I suggest that you get the latest edition of the "Baby Bargains" book as a great buying guide, especially for car seats and cribs, where safety is a big concern.
Love your baby â thatâs what he needs most.
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