Saturday, April 5, 2014

if you are high risk during pregnancy how long should you work?




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I am a insulin dependant diabetic and I really want to know when I should stop working


Answer
I would ask your doctor...everything changes when your diabetic...they have to monitor the baby closer and stuff like that...so it may be a situation where you would have to quit working earlier..

Is this typical mother anxieties or am I just being too overprotective?




Ms. MD


My daughter has always slept in the bedroom with my husband and me. She went from her bassinet to her pack n play. Right before her first birthday we decided that it was time for her to have her own room. I really pushed my husband to get the room in order so she could start sleeping in her crib. She had a lot of trouble with
it the first night. She would not fall asleep when she was left alone. We also have a twin bed in her room so I figured I'd just lay down in there until she fell asleep. As I was laying there, I started to worry about leaving her in the room by herself. Even though we have a baby monitor, I worry I won't hear her if she starts to cry. Because her bedroom is close to the back door, I worry someone will be able to get in and take her (the doors are locked but I still worry). I worry about recalls that they have on cribs all the time and think it might not be safe. But my biggest worry, is that if there were a fire and I couldn't get to her. I am so worried that I continue to sleep in my daughters room and she is now 13 months old. I know it's not right but I'm not able to get a restful night of sleep any other way. I have a solution to this problem. We are going to the put the door to our bedroom on a different wall so it will be much closer to her room.

I worry about her nutrition. I worry about the carpet being vacuumed and small things being out of her reach so she doesn't choke on anything. I worry about her social skills since she's an only child and I'm a stay at home mom. She doesn't really interact with other small children.
I worry about a lot more things when it comes to my daughter. My husband is always telling me that I need to stop worrying but I just think it's normal. What do you think? Does it sound normal or a bit extreme?
I guess I should have explained that we live in a large old house with old wiring and strange room placement. Our bedroom is off the living room. Our daughters room is off the dining room. We have to go through the living room, kitchen and dining room to get to our daughters room. We have our bedrooms upstairs but we have decided to close off the entire upstairs to save on heating and cooling cost. If we move our bedroom door it will put it off the dining room as well and give us more wall space in our living room. I know it sounds weird to have bedroom doors on a dining room but it will actually make the placement of the rooms less odd. All while putting some of my anxieties to rest.
Also, my worrying doesn't consume my mind all day and night. I am actually much better during the day. I'm not one of those parents that go running to their kid when they fall or sanitizing everything before they touch it. I do like to make sure that small things are picked up off the floor though because I'm not watching her every move at every second.
If you don't have kids please don't answer. I never thought I would be an overprotective mom and thought they were silly. You can't possibly know the feeling of being a parent until you actually become one.



Answer
It's a bit extreme.

"For every worry under the sun,
there is a remedy or there is none.
If there is one, hurry and find it.
If there is none, never mind it."
--unknown

My parents have quoted this to me my whole life.

You need to relax and realize that many of these things you are worried about, the chances of them happening are so slim, they aren't worth the extra stress and anxiety. You do the best you can and things should work out just fine.

And on a side note: our baby monitor quit working when my oldest was about 8 months old. We tried replacing it, but the one we bought didn't work well either. We figured the area we lived in must have had a lot of interference so we took that one back and never replaced it. Four kids later, we have never used another baby monitor and our kids have always slept in a separate room from us. If they really need us at night, they cry hard enough and loud enough for us to hear them. Otherwise, they'll go back to sleep on their own.




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