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On Wednesday my sister got a cerclage and the next night went back to the hospital for a high fever. She was treated and sent home. Just last night she started having contractions. When we got to the hospital they told her that her amniotic sac was leaking but when retested that came to be untrue. At around 6 this morning she was discharged and as he was getting out of the bed her water broke. They're doing all they can to stop the contractions but said they have to remove the cerclage and that the baby is most likely coming today. Our whole family is in tears but the biggest toss up is whether the baby will survive or not. The doctors say if the baby does survive the eyes will be fused and the brain undeveloped but a unique baby is better than none. Please help.
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Am very sorry for what is happening with your sister.
I wish her, the baby and everyone all the best.
About 50 percent of babies born at 24 weeks survive with proper medical assistance/treatment.
Most preterm babies will need special medical attention after birth. If preterm delivery was anticipated, you would be advised to deliver your baby in a hospital that has a neonatal intensive care unit (NICU). You may have to deliver your baby at a different hospital than originally planned. If you have an unplanned premature delivery, the baby may have to be taken to another facility that has an NICU to receive the best quality care.
When premature babies are born, they have not completed the normal development that is needed inside your uterus. So, they will look different than what you expected. The baby will appear to be red and very little. You may notice that you can see all the blood vessels through fragile-looking skin because there has not been enough time to develop any fat underneath.
The baby will probably be put in an incubator (an enclosed, see-through plastic crib) in the NICU. This environment allows the baby's temperature to be stabilized enough to keep it warm without needing to be wrapped up in blankets. This also decreases the risk of an infection. The humidity is controlled to help maintain the baby's hydration and prevent water loss. A cap may be kept on the baby's head to help limit heat loss.
There will likely be tubes and wires attached to the baby, and this can sometimes be intimidating or disturbing to new parents. The wires allow the medical team to keep a close watch on your baby's health status continuously. They will be monitoring the baby's breathing, heart rate, blood pressure, and temperature constantly.
There may also be other things that are monitored specific to your baby's problems. It is possible your baby may need to be on a respirator to assist with breathing for a short period of time. The baby may need extra oxygen as well.
It is not unusual for parents to feel awkward, anxious, and uncomfortable in the NICU. It is important for you and your baby to have physical contact as early as possible. The highly qualified medical staff will help you with all the equipment and show you what to do.
If your baby is very premature, you might not be able to do anything more than to stroke your baby through the openings in the incubator. As your baby grows and becomes more developed, you will be able to help with bathing and be able to hold, talk to, and sing to the baby. Cuddling with your baby directly against your skin, called âkangaroo care,â is an especially good way to bond with your baby. It won't be long before you start seeing all the things that you may have seen if the baby had been born full-term.
Through all of this you may experience a variety of emotions. You will need to take time to recover physically so that you can be strong for your baby. You might experience anger, fear, guilt, and depression (all of which are normal emotions to go through). Even women with healthy, full-term babies can develop depression from the hormonal changes of childbirth â and itâs only logical that mothers with preterm babies have a more difficult time. Talk with the social workers in the NICU or with your health care provider if you are feeling overwhelmed. You may be developing post-partum depression.
The important thing is to recognize that even though your baby needs special medical attention, the baby also needs you and your love and affection. This is equally important for the baby's development and adjustment outside the uterus.
http://www.umm.edu/pregnancy/000147.htm
other sites for you to read.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2243233/More-premature-babies-born-24-weeks-surviving--number-living-disabilities-rise.html
https://theconversation.com/balancing-hope-and-fear-for-babies-born-at-24-weeks-gestation-1402
***Wishing your sister and baby all the best****
Am very sorry for what is happening with your sister.
I wish her, the baby and everyone all the best.
About 50 percent of babies born at 24 weeks survive with proper medical assistance/treatment.
Most preterm babies will need special medical attention after birth. If preterm delivery was anticipated, you would be advised to deliver your baby in a hospital that has a neonatal intensive care unit (NICU). You may have to deliver your baby at a different hospital than originally planned. If you have an unplanned premature delivery, the baby may have to be taken to another facility that has an NICU to receive the best quality care.
When premature babies are born, they have not completed the normal development that is needed inside your uterus. So, they will look different than what you expected. The baby will appear to be red and very little. You may notice that you can see all the blood vessels through fragile-looking skin because there has not been enough time to develop any fat underneath.
The baby will probably be put in an incubator (an enclosed, see-through plastic crib) in the NICU. This environment allows the baby's temperature to be stabilized enough to keep it warm without needing to be wrapped up in blankets. This also decreases the risk of an infection. The humidity is controlled to help maintain the baby's hydration and prevent water loss. A cap may be kept on the baby's head to help limit heat loss.
There will likely be tubes and wires attached to the baby, and this can sometimes be intimidating or disturbing to new parents. The wires allow the medical team to keep a close watch on your baby's health status continuously. They will be monitoring the baby's breathing, heart rate, blood pressure, and temperature constantly.
There may also be other things that are monitored specific to your baby's problems. It is possible your baby may need to be on a respirator to assist with breathing for a short period of time. The baby may need extra oxygen as well.
It is not unusual for parents to feel awkward, anxious, and uncomfortable in the NICU. It is important for you and your baby to have physical contact as early as possible. The highly qualified medical staff will help you with all the equipment and show you what to do.
If your baby is very premature, you might not be able to do anything more than to stroke your baby through the openings in the incubator. As your baby grows and becomes more developed, you will be able to help with bathing and be able to hold, talk to, and sing to the baby. Cuddling with your baby directly against your skin, called âkangaroo care,â is an especially good way to bond with your baby. It won't be long before you start seeing all the things that you may have seen if the baby had been born full-term.
Through all of this you may experience a variety of emotions. You will need to take time to recover physically so that you can be strong for your baby. You might experience anger, fear, guilt, and depression (all of which are normal emotions to go through). Even women with healthy, full-term babies can develop depression from the hormonal changes of childbirth â and itâs only logical that mothers with preterm babies have a more difficult time. Talk with the social workers in the NICU or with your health care provider if you are feeling overwhelmed. You may be developing post-partum depression.
The important thing is to recognize that even though your baby needs special medical attention, the baby also needs you and your love and affection. This is equally important for the baby's development and adjustment outside the uterus.
http://www.umm.edu/pregnancy/000147.htm
other sites for you to read.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2243233/More-premature-babies-born-24-weeks-surviving--number-living-disabilities-rise.html
https://theconversation.com/balancing-hope-and-fear-for-babies-born-at-24-weeks-gestation-1402
***Wishing your sister and baby all the best****
Did you live in a foster home and/or have foster parents growing up?
Angellover
I was physically and emotionally abused by my dad growing up. I ask my mother as an adult why she allowed it to go on. She said she had no where else to go. I asked her why she didn't put me in foster care. My mother said that she was afraid that she'd never see me again. She said that the children were mistreated, How was you treated in foster care? I believe it would've saved me a lot of pain if I had been placed in foster care or given up for adoption.
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I wasn't in foster care, but I had a foster brother. He was treated just like the rest of us children. He would call my dad Daddy and my mom Aunt. It caused a lot of gossip in the neighborhood so my dad became "Uncle".
I know others who were in foster care and also providers. The people that I personally knew were like our home, the foster children were treated as their own. Some were even adopted.
I know of one case where a man got a foster girl. When he went to give her a bath (she was just a toddler), he noted signs of sexual abuse. He called the authorities and they were in the process of arresting him when the social worker finally showed up. She had forgotten to tell him that the baby had been sexually molested in her previous foster home.
Other homes, though I don't know any personally, are physically and emotionally abusive. People sometimes take foster children for the money and don't provide for them as they should. Other children get abused. So, foster care can go both ways.
Personally, I think foster care should only be used in extreme cases, and perhaps you are one. But you need help to overcome your experience. Seek out a counselor so you can learn to put it behind you and go on with your life. You don't need the extra baggage. You will never completely forget, but you will learn to deal with the horrible experience.
I pray that the Lord will be with you and help you get through the difficult experience.
As for your mother, she apparently loved you very much, but her fear overcame her good sense and protective instinct. There was a time when foster care wasn't a very good option, but things are somewhat better now, but obviously far from perfect. You don't say how old you are so there is no way to determine whether you were raised before additional restrictions and closer monitoring and checks were in place.
Try to look at your experience as a way NOT to raise a child and if you find that your spouse is abusing your child, take the child and run as far and as fast as you can. There are more shelters and help available now than when my brother and I were growing up.
By the way, I was about 4 and my foster brother was about 7 months older. We still are in touch today and still think of each other as siblings. After nearly 3 years with us, his mother married a wonderful man and the day my brother left, we held each other and cried. That's been over 50 years ago.
I wasn't in foster care, but I had a foster brother. He was treated just like the rest of us children. He would call my dad Daddy and my mom Aunt. It caused a lot of gossip in the neighborhood so my dad became "Uncle".
I know others who were in foster care and also providers. The people that I personally knew were like our home, the foster children were treated as their own. Some were even adopted.
I know of one case where a man got a foster girl. When he went to give her a bath (she was just a toddler), he noted signs of sexual abuse. He called the authorities and they were in the process of arresting him when the social worker finally showed up. She had forgotten to tell him that the baby had been sexually molested in her previous foster home.
Other homes, though I don't know any personally, are physically and emotionally abusive. People sometimes take foster children for the money and don't provide for them as they should. Other children get abused. So, foster care can go both ways.
Personally, I think foster care should only be used in extreme cases, and perhaps you are one. But you need help to overcome your experience. Seek out a counselor so you can learn to put it behind you and go on with your life. You don't need the extra baggage. You will never completely forget, but you will learn to deal with the horrible experience.
I pray that the Lord will be with you and help you get through the difficult experience.
As for your mother, she apparently loved you very much, but her fear overcame her good sense and protective instinct. There was a time when foster care wasn't a very good option, but things are somewhat better now, but obviously far from perfect. You don't say how old you are so there is no way to determine whether you were raised before additional restrictions and closer monitoring and checks were in place.
Try to look at your experience as a way NOT to raise a child and if you find that your spouse is abusing your child, take the child and run as far and as fast as you can. There are more shelters and help available now than when my brother and I were growing up.
By the way, I was about 4 and my foster brother was about 7 months older. We still are in touch today and still think of each other as siblings. After nearly 3 years with us, his mother married a wonderful man and the day my brother left, we held each other and cried. That's been over 50 years ago.
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